You can't change your life until you start changing your life.
Do you want to experience more joy, rediscover your Authentic Self & create a soul-led, values consistent life?
My clients struggle as you do. Despite being smart, kind, and capable high achievers, life is hard.
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When they first come in, they are overwhelmed with anxiety, negative self-talk, and shame. They're judging themselves & they fear others are judging them too. They adjust their behavior throughout each day to ensure others will approve of them because rejection feels catastrophic & terrifying. They aim to please. Be needless. Never cause a stir. They over exert themselves and end up feeling exhausted. They were raised by a narcissistic, driven, and/or emotional mother & a passive and/or rejecting father; somewhere along the way, they learned to conflate love with self-sacrifice, to prioritize the other before themselves to keep themselves safe from attacks from their emotionally immature parents. Now they have an inner-critic who sounds a lot like their emotionally immature parents constantly telling them they're not good enough.
Their anxiety and people pleasing gets in the way of the life they want in so many ways. They aren’t the kind of empowered woman they want to be. They feel like they’re failing as a partner, friend, or in mothering their own kids. And their confidence in showing up as an empowered feminine being is nonexistent. They desperately want to be better; they've internalized so much throughout their upbringing that they carry the weight of being the one to change in their lives to make things better. They think, 'I'm the problem. My anxiety is mine to fix so I have to make a change', the pressure is on them so they come to therapy. They don't want to be a burden to loved ones nor make demands of them.
Before my clients came to see me, they believed it was best to try to manage their problems alone and hide their pain behind productivity. After all, this helped them survive as a child in a house with emotionally immature parents. Their relationships were strained and lost their passion, and they didn't know this could change. And they were pretty certain that they're inherently flawed and wouldn't be accepted if others saw the real them. They're white knuckling through each day with so much stress, anxiety & tension. Masking what they really feel & who they really are, and that's draining.
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I get it. I truly get the pain my clients feel, and I know the way out.
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Anxiety & people pleasing stemming from trauma in childhood from having emotionally immature parents is real & it is exhausting. Like my clients, you deserve to process & heal your childhood wounds from emotional neglect & mistreatment, feel empowered when you ask for what you need in your relationships, and be able to embody your boundaries & values. Feeling calm, confident, and at peace is not out of your reach.
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If you want to stop feeling so much anxiety, shame & guilt to become the empowered, authentic woman I know you can be, I'd love to help you get there.
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Schedule an appointment today. You don't have to suffer. I can help.
Welcome
My name is Allie Jayne
I'm a millennial therapist & coach based in Seattle. I use a modern, compassionate, and radically genuine approach to help women heal attachment wounds & childhood trauma from emotionally immature parents to make meaningful changes in their lives & reclaim their authenticity. I am extensively trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) & Dialectical Behavior Therapy-Prolonged Exposure (DBT-PE) to target specific, self-limiting behavior patterns, trauma & stress responses to create sustainable change for women struggling with anxiety, people pleasing & boundaries due to being raised by emotionally immature parents. I bridge strategic therapy with energetics using natal & shamanic astrology to facilitate deep healing, and help you rediscover your soul purpose & reconnect with your intuition.
Authentic
/ôˈTHen(t)ik/
adjective
1. of undisputed origin; genuine
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